Many people grow up in families that display a wide range of behavior and thought patterns that cause people distress. Mental health issues, illness, economic instability and substance abuse are often present. Children learn to keep the peace, take care of others, deny their own feelings, and try to control in an effort to survive and cope with an unstable home life.
Learning to set appropriate boundaries can assist in managing these often challenging situations. Focusing on what is working builds a solid foundation leading to success. Changing patterns that have developed over time is a gradual process that requires practice and an openness to try new things and to feel a little uncomfortable at times.
My focus is on assisting clients towards an understanding of themselves and how they developed roles and rules that no longer serve them. This process helps to create a feeling of increasing confidence. These new skills become more familiar and create a stronger foundation to build on.